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To Get Where You Want to Go, You Can’t Be the Person You Are Now

August 23, 2013

Today’s tip is about how creating processes, systems, and rituals will get you to the success you desire.

enjoy the trip

The value is in the experience, so enjoy the process.

Current statistics show that about one-third of lottery winners ultimately file for bankruptcy. Why is this?

Because if you can’t handle a small amount of money, you won’t be able to handle a large amount.

Remember, in order to get to where you want to go, you can’t be the person you are now. You must develop into a new person. A “lottery” is instant, so there is no self-development.

This is why a high percentage of people who have been through gastric-bypass surgery to lose weight don’t ultimately get the results they had hoped for. It you don’t deal with the internal, mental aspects of something, like an emotional connection to food, no external solution to dealing with that, such as making your stomach smaller, is going to be permanent.

If you go through the full process it takes to “earn” your goal, but later make a misstep and fail to keep it, you’ll more likely to get back on track relatively quickly, since the experiences you’ve been through previously have helped you to develop the skills you need to make it happen again.

In both life and business, even when we get where we planned to go, that place is not always what we thought it would be like once we get there. “The process” is all we can be guaranteed of.

And ironically, the “process” is what will cause us to ultimately get the desired outcome. Why? Because the desired outcome emerges from the process.

In other words, if you do what you should be doing, the desired outcome happens automatically.

Most people, on some level, are either living in the past or focusing too much on the future. While you may not be frustrated with your career in ways that are as obvious as the examples above, you probably find yourself throughout the day thinking ahead to what’s about to come.

Stop it. 

It’s always a bit shocking to work with a successful musician who says something like, “I miss playing clubs. You can’t connect with people in larger venues.” I say that because, when I work with upcoming acts, I often hear, “I’m sick of clubs. I can’t wait until we can start playing larger venues.”

And I hear variations of this sentiment all the time. For example, I see bands working hard to get a record deal, only to be frustrated when they actually get one, because it wasn’t what they thought it would be.

Being present and focusing on where you are now not only lets success emerge, but it also solves the issues above.


Nothing is ever like we think it will be. Focus on where you are now with what you have now and the rest will take care of itself. I’ve seen it happen time and time again. If you’re doing what needs to be done today, the success you’re hoping for tomorrow will automatically appear.

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