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“Don’t Get Too Big for Your Britches!”

January 31, 2014

Ron jeremyI always thought this would make a great slogan for a penis enlargement product.

Like a warning on the package that said, “Hey, dude. Don’t rub too much of this on or else you’ll get TOO BIG FOR YOUR BRITCHES!!”

And, of course, guys would buy the product by the gallon and take baths in it…

Just the opposite would work for a weight-loss potion — “Don’t drink too much! You don’t want to get too thin!”

Or do you?

Well, we all know the answer to that one…

Not Really

We like to think “too much is never enough” and we tell ourselves we believe that when it comes to money, success, and the size of our television screens, but if we were to be honest with ourselves, “too much” definitely exists. For most people, it has to do with how much the people in our lives have.

“Keeping Up with the Joneses” is a myth. Most people do something just the opposite — we play small so the people around us don’t get out of their comfort zones.

It’s the younger sister who won’t get married until her older sister does.

It’s the son who won’t take a job promotion because it would mean he’ll make more than his father does.

It’s the talented entrepreneur who keeps things small because “the guys in the neighborhood” he grew up all work low-wage factory jobs and might not hang around him if he had real success.

Why You’re Broke

Even if your situation is not as obvious as those listed above, you’re likely affected by similarly limiting beliefs.

So how do you fix this? When you find yourself presented with a “fact,” ask yourself these two questions…

1. “Do I really believe this?”

2. “Does this apply everybody or just me?”

For example, let’s say you want to get married, but your older sister hasn’t married yet, so you feel you can’t. That’s ok. The answer to #1 will be “yes” because you really believe it.

However… When you get to question #2, the answer is “just you.” And if not “just you,” certainly not everybody.

Now you know what you have to work with. And if this is where you are, I suggest you also read what I’ve written about playing by other people’s rules.

That’s Impossible!

It’s worth nothing that when we say something is “impossible” to do, what we’re really saying is that it hasn’t been done yet. Probably the most famous example of this is running a sub-four-minute mile.

Many people thought it was impossible. After hundreds of years of competitive running, nobody had broken four minutes.

Then Roger Bannister ran a mile in [3:59].4 on May 6, 1954 and showed people it was possible.

And 46 days later John Landy broke Bannister’s record with a [3:57].9 mile.

Today, it’s common for high school athletes to have even better times.

You’ve heard this before, probably a million times, so let’s get down to business…

How to Change a Limiting Belief

The first thing you have to know about achieving anything is that it’s possible, which is why I brought up the sub-four-minute mile example. Even if you don’t think it’s possible for you, at least you’ll know it’s possible for somebody.

One you know it can be done by somebody, the only thing to get clear on is if you’ll be able to do it.

So how do you do this? Two ways…

1. Read Books – Not just any book — books that are biographical in nature.

It’s easy to see Oprah, or some other success story, in the media and get the impression that things “just worked out.” They didn’t. There is a long story behind every successful person you see and a biography will help you to get that story from the beginning with a lot of the little parts most media will leave out.

Something you’re likely to find is that the people you read about had it worse than you. Success at something often comes because of problems. Success often happens after an initial defeat.

Roger Bannister is a great example of this. In the 1952 Olympics in Helsinki, he set a British record in the 1500 meters, but did not win a medal as expected. He spent two months licking his wounds, considering giving up running entirely, but instead came away with a new goal — run the first sub-four-minute mile.

2. Hang Around Successful People –  Like reading a biography, spending time with successful people will show you there really isn’t that much difference between them and you.

Where do you meet successful people? Go to where successful people hang out. I’ve met a lot of successful people in the gym, as there is a correlation between mental and physical health. Seminars and conferences are good. Air travel is good.

Like reading books about successful people, actually hanging around them will show you there is little difference between them and you.

People often ask me if I get nervous before interviewing or hanging around with famous musicians. I don’t. Why? Because they’re just like me.

Final Thoughts

If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for you. Learn to play your game instead of simply joining the game you were born into.

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